So, I’m dating a boy who is not ::gasp:: active on social media – no Facebook, no Twitter, nope not even Instagram. I knew him before he left the world of never-ending interaction but whenever I tell people he doesn’t have a profile they always hit me with the same question – “What’s he trying to hide?”
I have to admit, at first I was like “huh, what the eff is he trying to hide?!” Did he have another life he didn’t want people to know about? Is he scared about the comments people would leave or the pictures he would get tagged in? Or worse, was he dating other women and trying to hide it? I can’t lie to you guys, these questions drove me crazy for a little while but luckily I realized what a ridiculous person I was being. Did I really want to date ANOTHER guy who spent more time on his Facebook than on me? NO.
I grew to actually appreciate it. There is a type of peace that comes from dating someone who isn’t constantly connected with the world. My love/hate relationship with social media has evolved to a point where I finally understand that I love how social media connects us with our interests and I hate how it affects our personal relationships. Sure, it’s pretty friggen’ awesome that I can connect with my family in Colombia and that I never miss out on what my best friend is up to at UNC Medical School when we can’t talk for a few days but I enjoy when I keep in touch with loved ones offline so much more now. And anyway, nothing beats those butterflies I get when he gives me a phone call – remember those? – I’ll take that over a comment on my wall any day.