In my first Twitterpated Millenials post, you’ll meet a DigiCouple, Christie and Johan. Christie is my best friend and former college roommate who met Johan during our time at Rutgers University. After a Facebook conversation and interaction at college events, the two started their relationship and here they are 4 years later. They have easily become my favorite couple ever – always laughing, hardly fighting, super happy and sharing their favorite meals together. But, I’ve always wondered how they’ve dealt with social media. If Facebook is cited in 1 out of 5 divorces these days, how do millenials who are just in their dating phases overcome that and somehow get to the altar? It leads me to wonder if the social media issues we’re going through today as 20somethings ever change, or do they just get more complex as we get older and deeper into our relationships? In this two-part post I have interviewed both Christie and Johan with 6 simple questions and they offer us insight into how social media has or has not affected their long-term relationship up until this point. First up, we meet Christie Moro.
1. Did social media play a role in how your relationship started? How so?
Yes. We began speaking individually (me and him only) through Facebook chat. There we sparked up a conversation about food (of course) and here we are 4 years later.
2. How often do you check your social media platforms on a daily basis?
I probably check my Facebook about 4-5 times a day; my twitter 7-8 times; Instagram 7-8 times and I am constantly on GroupMe. Surfing through social media is a regular part of my day.
3. Do you still use social media to communicate with each other?
Yes, we speak to each other regularly on Facebook chat as well as GroupMe.
4. How has social media affected your relationship negatively? Positively?
I think it has been positive. It has been a way to keep in contact through our busy schedules.
5. How have you dealt with a post by your significant other that bothered or made you uncomfortable in any way?
Address it head on. If I don’t feel comfortable with something I let him know immediately so we can talk about it.
6. If you can give couples one piece of advice regarding their relationship and social media, what would it be?
If you are going to be with someone trust them. Don’t “stalk” your significant other through social media. Also, if you don’t like something address it but don’t be crazy about it. If you are going to get mad at every single interaction they have another female (or male), you probably have other issues you need to take care of first.
Truth is, all relationships and couples are different, but making it work and getting through the mess that social media has the power to create in our relationships is possible if we put what matters first. Chances are, you probably forgot about that post you read yesterday, but not how your significant other made you feel. We’re all going to deal with the occasional Facebook stalker or courter, we just gotta be smart about figuring out what’s worth paying attention to. So stop blushing when you get that stranger’s digital poke and go poke your real life boyfriend. It’s so much more worth it.